Staying in Love: “People Seem too Crazy so I Read a Book”

The title is a line sang by Kelis on her album Food. Let me assure you that she was correct; humans are weird. No, sincerely. Recently I was hanging out with this woman who seemed cool. I was flowing, she was flowing, it had a rhythm. After our last date, we had our first kiss….

Staying in Love: Why I Quit Ghosting on Relationships

What exactly is ghosting? Ghosting is the act of ceasing all communication with a person without providing any explanation. This action often leaves the other person in a state of wonderment and confusion; uncertain of what they have done wrong. What are the reasons for ghosting? These are numerous and usually, case and person-specific, but…

Staying in Love: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Get Back With An Ex?

I haven’t written about relationships in a while, but I’ve been pondering this question a lot and figuring out if it is worth writing about. One of my closest friends is currently “getting to know” an ex again after not dating each other for a number of years. They have dated other people over the…

Can You Explain to Me Open Relationships?

Okay, Okay, Okay…I feel like a lot of people are sharing stories about how nonmonogamy is making them happy, but is it just me or do they all sound like they’re in monogamous relationships? Now, before you think this is a hate article, understand that I have always said that monogamy isn’t for everyone–I get…

Who I Am and Why I’m Here

I’ve been blogging for a few years now, but I have never taken a moment to fully introduce myself. So, here we are. When I initially began this blog it was as an extension, and eventual replacement, for the “For Your Black? Conscious” newsletter I started during my years in Chicago. The original intent of…

Part Deux: Guide to Having a Tear Free Valentine’s Day

*Sniffs the air vigorously* Anyone smell that??? *sniffs more* Ahhhhhh… I know that smell! Yes… It’s that undeniable scent of sweet nothings being engraved into small, sugar-covered tarts all around the globe. The lovely scent of roses, tulips and, carnations being snipped, wrapped and delivered to homes and office buildings alike. The pungent scent of…

Salt (Book Review)

In the book The Salt Eaters by Toni Cade Bambara there is arguably the most amazing opening line ever that states, “Are you sure, sweetheart, that you want to be well?” Our current read, Salt by Nayyirah Waheed, would be if you answered the question in the affirmative! Check out the review below: ‘Love like…

From a Bachelor to You: How to Not be Lonely This Valentine’s Day

Well, well, well…ladies and gentlemen, it’s that time of year again. The time of year where all of those “Relationship Goals” posts are put to the test! Half of you all are reserving tables at lavish dining establishments, while the rest of you are compiling playlists with Bryson Tiller and K Michelle at the forefront….