Staying in Love: “People Seem too Crazy so I Read a Book”

The title is a line sang by Kelis on her album Food. Let me assure you that she was correct; humans are weird. No, sincerely. Recently I was hanging out with this woman who seemed cool. I was flowing, she was flowing, it had a rhythm. After our last date, we had our first kiss….

All About Love (Book Giveaway)

In honor of Valentine’s Day and Black History Month, I am giving away All About Love by bell hooks. How to Enter: 1. Follow me on instagram (@msmalcolmhughes) 2. Tag 2 friends underneath the post of the book Winner Announcement: The winner will be announced on Valentine’s Day via Instagram live. GOOD LUCK! Until next…

Life Reflections on a Plane to Mexico

It is 9:53 am on Friday, January 18, 2019, and I am sitting on a plane, a little over two hours from landing in Mexico City. I am going back and forth between listening to music and reading Eat, Pray, Love. Her feelings and the desire to go, to master a language, to be, to…

Staying in Love: Why I Quit Ghosting on Relationships

What exactly is ghosting? Ghosting is the act of ceasing all communication with a person without providing any explanation. This action often leaves the other person in a state of wonderment and confusion; uncertain of what they have done wrong. What are the reasons for ghosting? These are numerous and usually, case and person-specific, but…

Staying in Love: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Get Back With An Ex?

I haven’t written about relationships in a while, but I’ve been pondering this question a lot and figuring out if it is worth writing about. One of my closest friends is currently “getting to know” an ex again after not dating each other for a number of years. They have dated other people over the…

The Princess Saves Herself in This One (Book Review)

Have you ever walked into a bookstore and been immediately sucked in by a title? That’s exactly what happened to me when I read the title of this book. Did the book live up to my expectations? Watch the video review to find out! Love Hard, Go Hard! – Ms. Malcolm Hughes

Can You Explain to Me Open Relationships?

Okay, Okay, Okay…I feel like a lot of people are sharing stories about how nonmonogamy is making them happy, but is it just me or do they all sound like they’re in monogamous relationships? Now, before you think this is a hate article, understand that I have always said that monogamy isn’t for everyone–I get…

Who I Am and Why I’m Here

I’ve been blogging for a few years now, but I have never taken a moment to fully introduce myself. So, here we are. When I initially began this blog it was as an extension, and eventual replacement, for the “For Your Black? Conscious” newsletter I started during my years in Chicago. The original intent of…

This Sterling K. Brown Interview Blessed My Life

This concise snippet of a Sterling K. Brown interview blessed my life this morning, and maybe it can do the same for you. What I find myself so drawn to about Brown is his seeming openness and vulnerability. It is truly a reminder to us all. To be more vulnerable, more honest, and more reflective…

It is what it is, not what it could be

Break the cycle in 2018. Not because it’s a new year, but because you deserve the unknown. In life, I find that it is easier for most people to circle back to what they’ve always known, instead of walking in the potential of the future. Sure, you have no idea what tomorrow may bring, but…

Part Deux: Guide to Having a Tear Free Valentine’s Day

*Sniffs the air vigorously* Anyone smell that??? *sniffs more* Ahhhhhh… I know that smell! Yes… It’s that undeniable scent of sweet nothings being engraved into small, sugar-covered tarts all around the globe. The lovely scent of roses, tulips and, carnations being snipped, wrapped and delivered to homes and office buildings alike. The pungent scent of…

Sour Honey & Soul Food (Book Review)

First and foremost, HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH! Alright, first book review of 2018 is here for your viewing pleasure :). Of course, let me know your thoughts and let’s just engage in fun and thought-provoking dialogue. The next read is a comic series I’m very excited about, The Wicked + The Divine. See you with…

Salt (Book Review)

In the book The Salt Eaters by Toni Cade Bambara there is arguably the most amazing opening line ever that states, “Are you sure, sweetheart, that you want to be well?” Our current read, Salt by Nayyirah Waheed, would be if you answered the question in the affirmative! Check out the review below: ‘Love like…

Cause We Love Ourselves?

There is this poem by Nayyirah Waheed, “i loved you because it was easier than loving myself” And I think we’ve all fallen guilty of doing this at one point or another. However, the question is when do we then alter this behavior? For example, I recently shared this poem with one of my closest…

No One Told Me My Girlfriend was Married…

So, as everyone knows I’ve taken the year off social media, so email alerts and friends have been keeping me updated on what’s happening in the outside world. However, NO ONE informed me that Poussey, ask Samira Wiley, got married. The betrayal! If I weren’t currently heartbroken (being dramatic), my heart would hurt. However, she…

She has Already Changed My Life…

“If she ever left me I wouldn’t even be sad, cause there’s a blessing in every lesson and I’m glad that I knew her at all.” – India Arie I wouldn’t have written this chapter of my life this way. I am a woman of strong conviction. I know what’s best for me, and when….

Lessons on dating from 2016

Listen, this year has stretched me in ways I had not imagined it could. Outside of the political climate, this year has also taken me on a whirlwind ride in my dating life. My last post talked about how I was really feeling some fine ass womon; well, that ended! I must say it ended…

You Should be Reading The Black Panther Comic Book

The fifth issue of The Black Panther comic book series has been recently released, and it is still as great as the initial four! As an admitted Ta-Nehisi Coates fan, I can acknowledge that I was a bit skeptical of how his writing would transfer to a comic strip, but all along I have been…