What exactly is ghosting? Ghosting is the act of ceasing all communication with a person without providing any explanation. This action often leaves the other person in a state of wonderment and confusion; uncertain of what they have done wrong. What are the reasons for ghosting? These are numerous and usually, case and person-specific, but […]Read More Staying in Love: Why I Quit Ghosting on Relationships
I haven’t written about relationships in a while, but I’ve been pondering this question a lot and figuring out if it is worth writing about. One of my closest friends is currently “getting to know” an ex again after not dating each other for a number of years. They have dated other people over the […]Read More Staying in Love: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Get Back With An Ex?
Have you ever walked into a bookstore and been immediately sucked in by a title? That’s exactly what happened to me when I read the title of this book. Did the book live up to my expectations? Watch the video review to find out! Love Hard, Go Hard! – Ms. Malcolm HughesRead More The Princess Saves Herself in This One (Book Review)
Okay, Okay, Okay…I feel like a lot of people are sharing stories about how nonmonogamy is making them happy, but is it just me or do they all sound like they’re in monogamous relationships? Now, before you think this is a hate article, understand that I have always said that monogamy isn’t for everyone–I get […]Read More Can You Explain to Me Open Relationships?
I’ve been blogging for a few years now, but I have never taken a moment to fully introduce myself. So, here we are. When I initially began this blog it was as an extension, and eventual replacement, for the “For Your Black? Conscious” newsletter I started during my years in Chicago. The original intent of […]Read More Who I Am and Why I’m Here
This concise snippet of a Sterling K. Brown interview blessed my life this morning, and maybe it can do the same for you. What I find myself so drawn to about Brown is his seeming openness and vulnerability. It is truly a reminder to us all. To be more vulnerable, more honest, and more reflective […]Read More This Sterling K. Brown Interview Blessed My Life
Break the cycle in 2018. Not because it’s a new year, but because you deserve the unknown. In life, I find that it is easier for most people to circle back to what they’ve always known, instead of walking in the potential of the future. Sure, you have no idea what tomorrow may bring, but […]Read More It is what it is, not what it could be
*Sniffs the air vigorously* Anyone smell that??? *sniffs more* Ahhhhhh… I know that smell! Yes… It’s that undeniable scent of sweet nothings being engraved into small, sugar-covered tarts all around the globe. The lovely scent of roses, tulips and, carnations being snipped, wrapped and delivered to homes and office buildings alike. The pungent scent of […]Read More Part Deux: Guide to Having a Tear Free Valentine’s Day
First and foremost, HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH! Alright, first book review of 2018 is here for your viewing pleasure :). Of course, let me know your thoughts and let’s just engage in fun and thought-provoking dialogue. The next read is a comic series I’m very excited about, The Wicked + The Divine. See you with […]Read More Sour Honey & Soul Food (Book Review)
We are now two episodes deep into season 2 of Insecure and we all have quite a bit to say about what has happened, and where we think the show will go. One event that really plagued me at the end of episode one was the lackluster sex between Lawrence and Issa. So, I did […]Read More Battle of the Sexes: His and Her takes on Season 2 of Insecure
In the book The Salt Eaters by Toni Cade Bambara there is arguably the most amazing opening line ever that states, “Are you sure, sweetheart, that you want to be well?” Our current read, Salt by Nayyirah Waheed, would be if you answered the question in the affirmative! Check out the review below: ‘Love like […]Read More Salt (Book Review)
There is this poem by Nayyirah Waheed, “i loved you because it was easier than loving myself” And I think we’ve all fallen guilty of doing this at one point or another. However, the question is when do we then alter this behavior? For example, I recently shared this poem with one of my closest […]Read More Cause We Love Ourselves?
So, as everyone knows I’ve taken the year off social media, so email alerts and friends have been keeping me updated on what’s happening in the outside world. However, NO ONE informed me that Poussey, ask Samira Wiley, got married. The betrayal! If I weren’t currently heartbroken (being dramatic), my heart would hurt. However, she […]Read More No One Told Me My Girlfriend was Married…
“If she ever left me I wouldn’t even be sad, cause there’s a blessing in every lesson and I’m glad that I knew her at all.” – India Arie I wouldn’t have written this chapter of my life this way. I am a woman of strong conviction. I know what’s best for me, and when. […]Read More She has Already Changed My Life…
Listen, this year has stretched me in ways I had not imagined it could. Outside of the political climate, this year has also taken me on a whirlwind ride in my dating life. My last post talked about how I was really feeling some fine ass womon; well, that ended! I must say it ended […]Read More Lessons on dating from 2016
The fifth issue of The Black Panther comic book series has been recently released, and it is still as great as the initial four! As an admitted Ta-Nehisi Coates fan, I can acknowledge that I was a bit skeptical of how his writing would transfer to a comic strip, but all along I have been […]Read More You Should be Reading The Black Panther Comic Book
The freestyle verse Chance the Rapper wrote for his girlfriend over “So Gone” by Monica, was definitely one of the highlights of early August. As always, Chance was charismatic in his flow and word choice, but what captivated me most about this video, even more than the lyrics, is Chance’s obvious and blatant vulnerability. So […]Read More Yes, I am Still Gushing Over Chance The Rapper’s #SoGoneChallenge Freestyle to his Girlfriend
There are many things that become easier as we get older, but dating doesn’t seem to be one of them. For the past five months, I’ve been dating this beautiful individual, but a lot of my friends are now starting to be over her a bit. Why? Well because we still haven’t officially stated in […]Read More When Should I Walk Away?
There are moments in your life when you read something and it resonates at a very close and relatable place. This was one of those moments for me. The writer, Ron Anahaw, is a twelfth grader from Towson, MD. His essay perfectly summarizes the first date experience. So much so that I just had to […]Read More “How to Do First Dates”
Rule #3 – Thou shalt not repeat mistakes of the past. Theme: 5 Lessons I Have Learned About Love Over the Years Rule #3 – Thou shalt not repeat the mistakes of the past. 1. You cannot fix the past. I know, we all have that one we let get away, or someone who loved […]Read More Rule #3 – Thou Shalt Not Repeat Mistakes of the Past–5 Lessons on Love