It is what it is, not what it could be

Break the cycle in 2018. Not because it’s a new year, but because you deserve the unknown. In life, I find that it is easier for most people to circle back to what they’ve always known, instead of walking in the potential of the future. Sure, you have no idea what tomorrow may bring, but…

Salt (Book Review)

In the book The Salt Eaters by Toni Cade Bambara there is arguably the most amazing opening line ever that states, “Are you sure, sweetheart, that you want to be well?” Our current read, Salt by Nayyirah Waheed, would be if you answered the question in the affirmative! Check out the review below: ‘Love like…

Cause We Love Ourselves?

There is this poem by Nayyirah Waheed, “i loved you because it was easier than loving myself” And I think we’ve all fallen guilty of doing this at one point or another. However, the question is when do we then alter this behavior? For example, I recently shared this poem with one of my closest…

No One Told Me My Girlfriend was Married…

So, as everyone knows I’ve taken the year off social media, so email alerts and friends have been keeping me updated on what’s happening in the outside world. However, NO ONE informed me that Poussey, ask Samira Wiley, got married. The betrayal! If I weren’t currently heartbroken (being dramatic), my heart would hurt. However, she…

Discovering Gender Fluidity in the Philippines

1. How do you feel your views on masculinity, femininity, and self-identity have changed since living outside the US? Moving to another country and immersing myself in another culture caused me to want to look into, research and explore my own culture more. I started wondering if there were similarities between Filipino and American culture…

More than a Shift, it’s an Awakening (album review)

Since watching her on the final season of American Idol, I have been a little obsessed with the beautiful songstress, Avalon Young. So, of course, I have to review her new album, Shift. I have to willingly admit that my opinion of this album, since listening over the past 72 hours, continues to shift. Upon…

My Heroes Don’t Wear Capes: the Vastness of #BlackGirlMagic

“The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”…

Rule #4 – Thou Shalt Know When to Stand Still

Rule #4 – Thou shalt know when to stand still. Theme: Self-love Situation: I have a “kindred spirit” by the name of Sunny. This individual is one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met but is frighteningly incapable of being alone. What do you do when the person you love tells you that you…

“Is it too late for me to come out of the closet?”

A reader emailed me this question a few months ago, and it has taken me quite some time to respond. After a lot of self-reflection I have determined that this was so hard for me to respond to because initially this was an idea to which I couldn’t relate. Seriously, my coming out at the…

17 Must see Black Lesbian/Queer web series, movies and documentaries

After attending a screening of The Same Difference, a friend and I had lunch with fellow moviegoers and we discussed the web series we watch. After an impassioned conversation, a friend stated that there needed to be a comprehensive list somewhere. Now, we have one. As I discover new series, movies, and documentaries I will…