It is no secret that I have been a fan of Danni Cassette for quite a while and the newest single definitely lives up to my expectations! Give your soul a boost and check out the melodic croons of “Banana” by this electric talent. The newest single: Listen here :). Discover More of Danni: Leave […]Read More Music Choice: Danni Cassette
I haven’t written about relationships in a while, but I’ve been pondering this question a lot and figuring out if it is worth writing about. One of my closest friends is currently “getting to know” an ex again after not dating each other for a number of years. They have dated other people over the […]Read More Staying in Love: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Get Back With An Ex?
Last month I hosted a book club and the selected reading was Juliet Takes a Breath by Gabby Rivera. The book is one that I recommend everyone read; especially young queer women of color who are trying to figure it all out. To determine why I love the book watch the video: Until next time, […]Read More Juliet Takes a Breath (Book Review)
Okay, Okay, Okay…I feel like a lot of people are sharing stories about how nonmonogamy is making them happy, but is it just me or do they all sound like they’re in monogamous relationships? Now, before you think this is a hate article, understand that I have always said that monogamy isn’t for everyone–I get […]Read More Can You Explain to Me Open Relationships?
Happy Pride Month! Most days I’m unsure whether I’m an extroverted introvert or an antisocial extrovert, either way, I enjoy the art of flirtation. Sometimes, I even want that dance to continue beyond the present moment, though most times I don’t. In those cases, someone has to make the move and acquire the other’s number, […]Read More 2 Simple Ways to Ask Women Out
I’ve been blogging for a few years now, but I have never taken a moment to fully introduce myself. So, here we are. When I initially began this blog it was as an extension, and eventual replacement, for the “For Your Black? Conscious” newsletter I started during my years in Chicago. The original intent of […]Read More Who I Am and Why I’m Here
In honor of my birth month, I am reading three books by and for powerful women. They are: 1. The Princess Saves Herself in This One by Amanda Lovelace 2. Juliet Takes a Breath by Gabby Rivera 3. Bone by Yrsa Daley-Ward Have you read any? What were your thoughts? Leave them in the comment […]Read More Books I’m Reading: May 2018
1. Bronzeville The podcast describes this series as “an audio theatre for the mind” and this could not be more accurate! My bias towards all things Chicago aside, this is a phenomenal series that honestly elevates the podcast-sphere. This series is jam-packed with A-list performers: Laurence Fishburne, Larenz Tate, Wood Harris, Tika Sumpter, Omari Hardwick, […]Read More Two Podcasts I Can’t Listen to Enough
Break the cycle in 2018. Not because it’s a new year, but because you deserve the unknown. In life, I find that it is easier for most people to circle back to what they’ve always known, instead of walking in the potential of the future. Sure, you have no idea what tomorrow may bring, but […]Read More It is what it is, not what it could be
In the book The Salt Eaters by Toni Cade Bambara there is arguably the most amazing opening line ever that states, “Are you sure, sweetheart, that you want to be well?” Our current read, Salt by Nayyirah Waheed, would be if you answered the question in the affirmative! Check out the review below: ‘Love like […]Read More Salt (Book Review)
There is this poem by Nayyirah Waheed, “i loved you because it was easier than loving myself” And I think we’ve all fallen guilty of doing this at one point or another. However, the question is when do we then alter this behavior? For example, I recently shared this poem with one of my closest […]Read More Cause We Love Ourselves?
So, as everyone knows I’ve taken the year off social media, so email alerts and friends have been keeping me updated on what’s happening in the outside world. However, NO ONE informed me that Poussey, ask Samira Wiley, got married. The betrayal! If I weren’t currently heartbroken (being dramatic), my heart would hurt. However, she […]Read More No One Told Me My Girlfriend was Married…
1. How do you feel your views on masculinity, femininity, and self-identity have changed since living outside the US? Moving to another country and immersing myself in another culture caused me to want to look into, research and explore my own culture more. I started wondering if there were similarities between Filipino and American culture […]Read More Discovering Gender Fluidity in the Philippines
Since watching her on the final season of American Idol, I have been a little obsessed with the beautiful songstress, Avalon Young. So, of course, I have to review her new album, Shift. I have to willingly admit that my opinion of this album, since listening over the past 72 hours, continues to shift. Upon […]Read More More than a Shift, it’s an Awakening (album review)
“The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.” […]Read More My Heroes Don’t Wear Capes: the Vastness of #BlackGirlMagic
Rule #4 – Thou shalt know when to stand still. Theme: Self-love Situation: I have a “kindred spirit” by the name of Sunny. This individual is one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met but is frighteningly incapable of being alone. What do you do when the person you love tells you that you […]Read More Rule #4 – Thou Shalt Know When to Stand Still
Rule #3 – Thou shalt not repeat mistakes of the past. Theme: 5 Lessons I Have Learned About Love Over the Years Rule #3 – Thou shalt not repeat the mistakes of the past. 1. You cannot fix the past. I know, we all have that one we let get away, or someone who loved […]Read More Rule #3 – Thou Shalt Not Repeat Mistakes of the Past–5 Lessons on Love
A reader emailed me this question a few months ago, and it has taken me quite some time to respond. After a lot of self-reflection I have determined that this was so hard for me to respond to because initially this was an idea to which I couldn’t relate. Seriously, my coming out at the […]Read More “Is it too late for me to come out of the closet?”
After attending a screening of The Same Difference, I went to lunch with a friend, and fellow movie goers, where we discussed the web series we watch. After a passionate conversation, the friend stated that there needed to be a comprehensive list somewhere, thus below. **As I discover new series, movies, and documentaries I will […]Read More 17 Must see Black Lesbian/Queer web series, movies and documentaries