Music Choice: “I Wish I Never Met You” by Domo Wilson

A part of me hates that I really like this song. Like most people who watched their relationship mature, and eventually devolve, I don’t care to see Domo and Crissy continue to rip each other to shreds in the public eye, but the music lover in me can acknowledge the way that Domo elevated her…

Can You Explain to Me Open Relationships?

Okay, Okay, Okay…I feel like a lot of people are sharing stories about how nonmonogamy is making them happy, but is it just me or do they all sound like they’re in monogamous relationships? Now, before you think this is a hate article, understand that I have always said that monogamy isn’t for everyone–I get…

QWOC Summer Book Club

Hey, Y’all! Okay, I’m super excited! For the first time ever, I am bringing my book review series to an in-person setting!! What?! YES! Registration is required so please find the Eventbrite link here. The book we are reading is Juliet Takes a Breath by Gabby Rivera. I am SO stoked for everyone to join…

It is what it is, not what it could be

Break the cycle in 2018. Not because it’s a new year, but because you deserve the unknown. In life, I find that it is easier for most people to circle back to what they’ve always known, instead of walking in the potential of the future. Sure, you have no idea what tomorrow may bring, but…

Does “I Am Not Your Negro” honor James Baldwin? (a reflection)

Since November 4, 2016 I have been in a constant state of reflection, so I figured I should start sharing these moments beyond my own subconscious. On Sunday, Februrary 5, 2017, after visiting the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, I decided it was an appropriate time to see what for me has been a long…

Discovering Gender Fluidity in the Philippines

1. How do you feel your views on masculinity, femininity, and self-identity have changed since living outside the US? Moving to another country and immersing myself in another culture caused me to want to look into, research and explore my own culture more. I started wondering if there were similarities between Filipino and American culture…

Lessons on dating from 2016

Listen, this year has stretched me in ways I had not imagined it could. Outside of the political climate, this year has also taken me on a whirlwind ride in my dating life. My last post talked about how I was really feeling some fine ass womon; well, that ended! I must say it ended…

Zami (book review)

In June, a group of friends and I went back to the gorgeous island of Tortola, in the British Virgin Islands. While on this island, us, a group of five womyn of color, decided that it was the perfect opportunity to discuss Zami. Check out​ our review below: -Ms. Malcolm Hughes

You Should be Reading The Black Panther Comic Book

The fifth issue of The Black Panther comic book series has been recently released, and it is still as great as the initial four! As an admitted Ta-Nehisi Coates fan, I can acknowledge that I was a bit skeptical of how his writing would transfer to a comic strip, but all along I have been…

Music Monday: BoomScat

  BoomScat This group! I have to preface with that because of how dope they are. Prior to seeing Boomscat live, a couple years ago, I had only seen pictures of them, but never heard any of their music. My initial thought? I’ve been missing out! Back in Chicago I heard Scat (Patience) sing, but…

My Heroes Don’t Wear Capes: the Vastness of #BlackGirlMagic

“The women whom I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes.”…

Rule #4 – Thou Shalt Know When to Stand Still

Rule #4 – Thou shalt know when to stand still. Theme: Self-love Situation: I have a “kindred spirit” by the name of Sunny. This individual is one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met but is frighteningly incapable of being alone. What do you do when the person you love tells you that you…

“Is it too late for me to come out of the closet?”

A reader emailed me this question a few months ago, and it has taken me quite some time to respond. After a lot of self-reflection I have determined that this was so hard for me to respond to because initially this was an idea to which I couldn’t relate. Seriously, my coming out at the…