Happy Pride Month!
Most days I’m unsure whether I’m an extroverted introvert or an antisocial extrovert, either way, I enjoy the art of flirtation. Sometimes, I even want that dance to continue beyond the present moment, though most times I don’t. In those cases, someone has to make the move and acquire the other’s number, here’s where it can get tricky and it becomes, as Dr. Seuss once said, “a great balancing act.”
For that reason, I’m sharing two of my go-to ways of asking women out–I’m sure they could work on men too. Just consider it a “million dollars worth of game for free.99.”
1. The Business Card
This is the approach that has gone down in a few unofficial record books, including the woman’s who said yes to my request ;-).
Let’s say you’re somewhere where talking is frowned upon (i.e., the library, the quiet car of a train, etc.), but you see someone who grabs your attention. What do you do? If you’re like me, and you hate wondering “what if”, you seize the moment.
In my particular situation, I used this approach to ask out a woman on the quiet car of a train. Upon sitting down I looked to my right, across the aisle, to witness the most stunning woman I had seen all day sitting across from me. I didn’t say anything initially because I see attractive people all the time. However, in this instance, my attention kept being drawn back to her. However, it was the quiet car and everyone was asleep. What to do? I put on my thinking hat and became a little creative. I took out a business card and wrote on the back, “If you’re single, may I take you out sometime? If you’re in a relationship, please disregard.” Now, some folks may say this is a little forward, but I thought it felt like the right approach.
I then asked if I waved for her attention and mouthed if I could hand her the card. She smiled when she read the card, came to sit next to me, and before she exited the train I had received a yes. We even followed up and actually went out.
Did she become my next girlfriend? No, but it makes for one heck of a story.
2. The Cutie Standing Alone
A lot of people find the direct approach the most intimidating, but if you keep in mind that we are all human, this is actually the simplest and most foolproof approach.
You can be anywhere, but for the sake of ease, let’s say you’re at a party and you eye a cutie holding up the wall. You can either: (1) make eye contact and flirt from a distance for a while, or (2) go in immediately and initiate contact; I’ve done both.
Life is short, and opportunities don’t always come around twice. So, the next time you are in a moment, seize it, and make the best memories life has to offer!
As always, love and hug more.
-Ms. Malcolm Hughes